As Valentine’s Day nears, everyone in a relationship scrambles to buy something to show their love on this mandated day of the year. Those of you living in Ohio may also purchase an obligatory gift for Sweetest Day in the fall. I urge you to not forget the remaining days in between. There are many ways to give gifts in a relationship.
Gift of being present-genuinely be present. Put your electronics away. Focus on each other. Make eye contact. Communicate with each other.
Gift of partnership-marriage is a partnership. Try to see things from each other’s point of view, make lists of common goals and work on them together. Be sensitive and supportive of each other’s needs.
Gift of respect-You may disagree with each other, but remember that everyone is entitled to their opinion and feelings and you should respect them.
Gift of compromise-you may each have a different thought or expectation. Have a civil discussion and negotiate a compromise that is agreeable to both of you.
Gift of trust-be open and honest with your partner. Have nothing to hide. Be completely open with your partner without restrictions. Don’t keep secrets or have private conversations that would make the other suspicious.
Gift of freedom-as much as we love spending time with each other, partners need space to do things with their friends or their own hobbies. Allow that personal time apart and appreciate the time you do have together.
Gift of helpfulness-give each other a break when you can. Help them out with the chores they typically do, especially if they are not feeling well or are having a stressful week.
Gift of frugality-sometimes spending in a marriage can be off balance. Often one sacrifices while the other spends. Work together on a budget and monthly allowance that is fair to both of you.
Gift of sexuality-sometimes when you have been in a long term relationship, you fall into routines and often sexual activity gets pushed aside. Most often, even if you are not in the mood, engaging in sexual activity with your partner results in a good experience for both of you.
Physical gifts-thoughtful gifts are wonderful in a relationship. They should not be given out of obligation or an expectation, but because you really felt the item your purchased would make your partner happy.
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