I find that I can become easily upset with my husband when he does not do something the way I prefer it to be done, or in the time frame that I was expecting. When we get into conflicts about the little stuff, I am reminded to take a set back and re-evaluate why things are upsetting me. The key is the terms “my way” and “my time frame”. I have to check myself and bluntly realize that I am the one with the problem. I also have to remember that my husband is my partner in life, and I am not his boss.
Once I stop to evaluate the situation and why it upsets me, then I can have a reasonable discussion with my spouse about things that are upsetting me. It is important to realize that my reasons are often selfish, and I need to explain to my husband why it is important to me.
I am comfortable in a world of order. In my world everything has a place and should be tidy. But in my husband’s world, things do not have to be so organized. He finds a way to use our things and enjoy life. The little things do not get to him. So we have to find a way to meet in the middle. I find that some of my emotions stem from being jealous of his ability to not allow the little things to bother him.
Some important tips to deal with conflict in a relationship that I have to review often include:
By taking a closer look at the frustrations in your relationship, you will find that you can be much happier with yourself and your relationship.
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