Why the article on grief? For one thing, I'm a volunteer at hospice and see it all the time. For another, there are many things that cause us to grieve that we might not realize.
Losing someone you love cases grief. We all know that. But losing other things can trigger this emotion as well. These can include losing your ability to do things because of an illness, your youth, your kids as they grow up, your job, your spouse due to a divorce, etc.
Loss equates change and sometimes that change can feel overwhelming. What's more, we all cope in our own way. Some folks keep it bottled inside while others let it out for the whole world to see. Some get angry and others laugh. I know one woman that had to have a meticulously clean floor while her husband was dying. It gave her a small bit of control in an otherwise hopeless situation.
I urge you to take a look at your own life and see if you have had any losses that require you to grieve. If so, find a healthy way to work through this emotion in your own unique way.
Mary and I grew up with a father who worried a lot. He once told me that when I was in college he would wake up in the middle of the night, wonder what I was doing, and then couldn't fall back asleep. Poor man!
Worrying is a natural part of being human. It can be a good thing when it motivates us to make necessary changes in life. However, it can quickly become a negative form of stress that does more harm than good. When worrying gets out of hand it can lead to health issues such as ulcers and heart disease.
Don't let that happen to you! If you think that you worry too much, there are some things you can try that may help:
I hope this helps. Now quit worrying and get back to enjoying your life!!
The other day I was sitting on the couch, watching a movie, and all of a sudden I burst into tears. My poor husband didn't know what to do. I tend to tear up when watching a sad show, but to outright cry was out of the norm for me. It made me realize that I had some unresolved emotions simmering below the surface.
I've said it before and I'll say it again; it's not healthy to stifle stress and emotions! When you are feeling bad about something, you need to find a safe way to vent it. If you don't, you'll end up embarrassing yourself in public as those overwhelming feelings pour out of you (and sometimes on to others).
So how does one safely vent emotions?
I would love to hear how you handle your emotions. Feel free to send comments.
As a mental health advocate, I have always believed in the value of meditation and other mind-body techniques. I feel they can do wonders for our minds by shutting down the internal "chatter" and bringing us to a lovely state of peace.
Having said that, I am ashamed to admit that I never really looked into the power of prayer. I was raised Catholic but quit attending church as soon as I could. I never found the connection that others raved about. To me God was out there but too far away for me to truly grab onto.
And yet, many of my friends continued to tell me about their prayers and how much they helped. I did a bit of research and there is some scientific evidence to support their claims. It would appear that folks who pray tend to live longer, have richer social lives, have less worry and stress, and are better able to relax than those who do not pray. In the hospital, those who pray tend to have less pain, less complications, and are sent home sooner. Wow!
Whether or not you believe in a higher power, there is something very soothing about the repetition of prayer. It is similar to the mantras that many folks use when meditating. I also liked the fact that you could take your overwhelming problems and hand them over to someone else (God). What a wonderful feeling that must be, even if it's only for a short time! I decided to give it a try.
They say you gravitate back to your childhood and that was true for me. I decided to attend mass at the Catholic church where I do volunteer work. So far I have been there about 5 times. What I have learned is that it is a peaceful way to spend an hour. The sermons have more meaning to me as an adult and I enjoy the aesthetics of the building. I must admit, I also enjoy the people watching! The kids, in particular, always make me smile.
Have I found that true connection to God? Not really. Am I able to turn all my problems over with ease? Not yet. But I'm still hopeful. Meditation takes years of practice and I can only assume it is the same with prayer. The bottom line is finding peace and meaning in your life. Amen!
Liza and I went shopping yesterday. In itself that wasn't a strange occurrence. LOL. However, we stopped at a Bath and Body Works and stocked up on scents. We both have allergies but still needed a "good smell fix." It got me thinking about aromatherapy and so I did a bit of research.
Aromatherapy uses scents to alter our moods and enhance our well-being. Scientists have found it can reduce pain, decrease anxiety, and increase energy levels in patients. They believe it stimulates the limbic system in our brain which deals with emotions.
When you think about it, that makes sense. Certain smells have a tendency to trigger memories in people, which in turn can trigger emotions. My mom has been gone for almost 20 years, but when I smell her perfume I immediately picture her laughing. This in turn either makes me smile or gets me a bit teary-eyed, depending on the situation.
Our sense of smell is more important than people realize. It contributes to the taste of food, can protect us from dangerous situations, and is the last sense (no pun intended) to fade away as someone is dying. I urge you to think about what scents make you happy. For me they include brewing coffee, fresh baked cookies, the air immediately after a good rain, a burning fire, and crisp fall air. I also love the smell of chlorinated water, which is a reminder of many happy summers spent swimming as a child.
There is quite a science to aromatherapy and people can put a lot of time and money into developing the perfect scents. If you're lazy, like I am, then you can whip up a quick batch of cookies or light a candle to get the job done. I urge you to have fun with aromatherpy and find what works for you. Now if you'll excuse me, I'm going to light my new lavender and vanilla scented candle and eat a cookie!
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